Dear Marigold,
Welcome to the forum and thanks for sharing your story. I’m sorry about your interactions with the health system. Knowledge of HBV is definitely quite variable among health care workers and communication is not necessarily open.
Re: poor/conflicting advice, many of us here at Hep B Community have gone through similar situations (Joan has detailed her own first-hand experiences and has a lot of second-hand ones too in her role at HBF), so I hope you feel that you can call on the community to help you through it. Indeed, it’s part of the reason why I started this community up. Re: worries about stigma, we even have a thread about this here.
From your test results, you’re probably right on the cusp of eligibility for treatment according to guidelines, so that is something you might want to raise with your hepatologist.
Regarding the banked eggs, they will be fine in terms of HBV. As Joan correctly mentioned, the main risk would be transmitting HBV to the child during birth. There’s another thread here about what measures you can take to prevent that.
Hope this helps,
Thomas