I know similar topics exist, but I was hoping to start my own because I have so much I want to go through.
So I (female) ended up meeting a man who, about a month into knowing one another, informed me he’s an inactive Hep B carrier. He found out about his status as a teen when he was going to donate blood. He used to donate all the time but one day they told him he could not donate and should go see his doctor and that’s when they told him the news. He was born & raised in a third world country and while his mom says he was vaccinated as a child, he somehow caught it. He thinks maybe it was a bad dose, or even after being vaccinated, he just never developed immunity. He’s not sure how he got it, but he thinks maybe from a barber shop.
All that said, I’m not going to lie, I was initially very taken aback when he told me as I’ve always had this very silly and very irrational fear of developing an infectious virus. However, I made sure not to make it known that I felt that way.
That said, I did not want something like that to get in the way of a potential relationship with this man as I really like him so decided I should instead 1. check to see if I’m immune and 2. educate myself as I would still like to give this relationship a shot
I went to check if I was still immune and turns out I’m not. My mom is pretty sure I was vaccinated as an infant, and I probably was bc I was born in the US in '95 and at that point, it was the norm to get babies vaccinated for Hep B. That said, my PCP said it’s normal for the vaccine effects to go away over time so I went ahead and made an appointment to start the series over again (even if this relationship goes no where, I should be vaccinated!)
That said, I still have so many questions I’d like insight to:
- Once I’m vaccinated, what are my risks of catching it from him if he’s an inactive carrier?
- As an inactive carrier, does he have a viral load?
- Can his Hep B ever become active again?
- Would our future kids be at risk? Will it be more difficult for him to have kids?
- Do we always have to use protection, even after I’m fully vaccinated (we haven’t been sexually active and if I’m being honest, I would prefer to wait until I’m fully vaccinated to engage in any sexual activity, even if protection is involved)
- Do we have to take any precautions living together?
- Is he at higher risks of any illnesses?
Sorry, that’s so many questions but I’m hoping someone can answer.
I’ve also started asking him questions, but I’m trying to be gentle. Although, please note, he’s been SO open and honest about everything and has gone out of his way to make me feel comfortable and answer my questions, so it almost makes me feel guilty asking questions bc I don’t want him to think I find this to be a big deal…although I know it’s important for me to have these conversations with him.
He even sent me his most recent blood test results (which were from before we met & did not have a viral load on them) and he even had an abdominal scan of his liver this past year, and his liver was in good shape and was “unremarkable” according to the doc, which is great. Although, his scans did show a small cyst on one kidney which the docs said was no big deal, but that leads me to question #9) does that have anything to do with his hep b status?
Any responses are SO greatly appreciated. I’d also LOVE to hear from anyone in similar situations.
I would hate for something like this to get in the way of a relationship with a seemingly wonderful man (we’ve known each other for almost 2 months) so I need to just educate myself as I think my fears are largely based on ignorance and lack of knowledge.